Nicholas T. Alley

Nicholas T. Alley

Bar Harbor

Nicholas Tait Alley, 32, son of Ronda and Rick Alley and brother of Briann died unexpectedly on Saturday, May 16th, 2020 at his home. Nick, aka Dick Sally and Nicholas Delavega, questioned everything and apologized for nothing.

As a young child his bright eyes and boundless energy let others know that life was meant to be lived. He laughed, loved, and played hard. As an adult he loved to cook and experience new adventures, many of them with friends traveling throughout the country to attend the concerts of his favorite bands: GWAR, Primus and Dog Fashion Disco to name a few. He even spent a few months on the road in 2013 with his special friends in the band Downtown Brown.

Nick was a connector of people through his love of music and was a friend to everyone. His favorite place was the Kave in Bucksport, a place where he played drums in various bands and got to explore who he was as a musician. Two highlights in his career were made with his band mates in the band Salvo: winning Battle of the Bands and opening on the Bangor Waterfront at Smackfest in 2010.

This past year, under the tutelage of Helen Douglas, he was learning Reiki and began studying A Course in Miracles and with his brother-in-law, Pete Neblett’s assistance was learning to repair gaming systems.

Nick absolutely loved being an Uncle to Asa and Stella. Their presence in his life was a true gift and they will miss him terribly, as well as all of his family, friends and those he connected with in the Maine music scene.

A concert in his memory will be held at a future date. In the meantime, enjoy the memories you made with Nick, challenge yourself to try something new and look upon all fellow humans with unconditional love.

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  • Deb Cady Posted May 28, 2020 12:17 pm

    My heart goes out to Nicks family and friends as he had many who loved him. Big hug to my good friend Ronda as I just lost my son and know all to well how crushing this is. I absolutely loved Nick and never saw him without a smile or something nice to say to someone. A good man now in heaven.

  • Morgan Posted May 28, 2020 8:45 pm

    Nick was my long distance close friend. We connected by meeting on a Dir En Grey form on Facebook. Once we started talking, it was instant friends. We talked for 5+ years. He had a big heart and you don’t just connect with someone like him everyday. He was one of a kind and a gem rather he believed it or not. My heart aches still and I will miss the heck out of him. We talked about anything and everything. I do not have many friends like that.

  • Tom Posted June 9, 2020 3:11 pm

    I miss you, bud. I’ll see you at the great big gig in the sky.

  • Marcia Posted June 12, 2020 10:46 am

    Nick, You had such a great heart! You will always be our blond hair blue eyed youngster, so full of life and laughter. We love you, Aunt Marcia and Uncle Mike

  • Nora Holloway Posted June 14, 2020 8:16 pm

    Sweet Rhonda,

    My heart is broken to hear of the recent loss of your son.
    I can’t imagine your pain and grief at this time. Although I
    didn’t know Nicholas personally I can tell he was a fine young
    Man who touched many lives. I hope all the love and joy that Nick has brought you will give you strength to face the days ahead. Keeping you in my thoughts

  • Lauren D Gelinas Posted June 25, 2020 2:07 pm

    I miss you Nick. You were a wonderful friend and person. I still think of you every day and miss your goofy face. I wish we had one last chance to go to dinner together and goof off. To all of Nicks family and friends, keep your heart open and smiles big. That’s all he ever wanted was for people to be happy.

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