After 82 years of bogarting butter and actively avoiding exercise, Nancy Theresa Holmes Graves Thomas Thompson Doyle (name truncated because obituaries are billed by the word) went to her next adventure early on June 15, 2019. She spent her final days with us basking in the love and laughter of those who came to wish her well and surrounded by the love of her children who were devotedly by her side, taking breaks only to pee, eat, text, eat, sleep, eat, check Facebook, eat, and discuss how much we miss Larry’s Bakery.
Nancy was born on January 30,1937 in Elizabeth, New Jersey. We questioned her claim that ‘I saw the Hindenburg disaster from my house’ since she was 4 months old at the time, but we believe this statement was the inspiration for one of Sarah Palin’s more unfortunate quotes.
Her family moved to Bar Harbor when she was a little girl, and Bar Harbor became her hometown. When Nancy wanted something, she persisted until she succeeded – such as that time she set her sights on a simple lobster pound restaurant on Western Bay in Trenton. Dad often said ‘She used to be satisfied with a pound lobster, now she wants a lobster pound.’ And then he would sigh and go hide in the neighbor’s garage. Despite having no experience running a restaurant, Nancy, with the help of her plucky ragtag crew built Oak Point Lobster Pound into an incredibly successful venture, with hundreds of devoted fans.
Her subsequent travels took her all over the country (she was partial to Vegas), and Thailand. Debbie recalls a letter in which she glowingly described her enchantment with the landscape, culture and people. She closed with ‘Please send butter, chocolate pudding and toilet paper. Debbie declined, not wanting the be the reason the Phuket wastewater system imploded.
After returning to the US, she settled on the West Coast, building a rather impressive resume, before deciding she had enough of earthquakes, crowds of strangers and not being allowed to back off an 1-5 on-ramp. After time in Millis, MA and Belfast, ME, she returned to Ellsworth. Asl her health declined, she enjoyed spending time with friends and family, cheering on the Red Sox and Patriots, and keeping up with the shenanigans of the Young & Restless residents of Genoa City.
She is predeceased by her parents Tim and Gladys Graves, 3 ex-husbands (which does not, despite her arguments qualify her as a merry widow), and her beloved son Stevie who died doing what he loved—living where his family did not. She leaves behind three adorable orphans, who are now in the market for a new forever home, Debbie Kane (and her ex-husband Brion), Michael Thompson (and his ex-wife Jean) and Sheri Sabbag (and her ex-husband Tommy – are you sensing a theme here?) six grandbabies – Christopher and Aaron Kane, Emily and Tori Sabbag, Audrey Morrison and Cole Thompson and two (soon to be three) great-grandchildren. She also leaves cousins, nieces, nephews and a lot of old and new friends. All with stories the orphans may not want to hear. And she leaves an apartment just packed with makeup, hair care products, full closets, random passwords and butter.
The family wishes to thank the incredibly caring staff at Maine Coast Memorial Hospital for tolerating the lively parade of visitors, the inappropriate laughter and for the wonderfully professional, kind, compassionate care given to Mom during her stay.
In lieu of flowers, please make a donation to your favorite charity, help a person in need, or buy a bunch of scratch-off tickets. She would approve of one of these things. Guess which one.
A celebration of life will be sometime this summer. God speed, Mom. You look fabulous. Arrangements by Acadia Burial & Cremation Direct, 248 State St. Ellsworth Condolences may be expressed at www.acadiacremation.com